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And you didn't understand my point.
What is the purpose of life, if not personal fulfillment and happiness? How is pursuing that somehow worthy of suspicion, or an inadequate reason to do something? Your formulation actually seems backwards to me -- I'd say that it is impossible to be a good parent unless it brings you personal fulfillment and happiness. It is too hard a job, and requires too many sacrifices, to do it for purely altruistic reasons for so long.
There is an inherent flaw to your logic, which would be if a parent gets personal fulfillment and happiness from drinking, gambling, and philandering.
And you again seem to miss the point. After you have kids, sure I get it, be the best parent you can be, but I am talking of the decision to create life, how many people that have children ask themselves if the children would like to be here, and have all the good and bad of life? Why is it such a flippant decision for most? I want kids. And there it is. But do kids want life? It's hard to answer unless we know what the opposite of life is. If you are religious, you have now created a human which may be damned to eternal suffering. Why would you take that gamble?
Maybe I should have titled this: "Creating life" or "Playing God" so that the parents would be less emotional about their decision to have kids. I still may have kids, I mean I want to, but then I ask...is that right?