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Figured I'd pop back in here with a quick update on my brother-in-law since a few of you were nice enough to help out.

About a week ago today, my wife received a phone call from her brother. He's openly admitting to his substance abuse issues and it finally coming to us for help. He mentioned that he was too proud and stubborn and thought he could fix all of this on his own. He clearly knows that's not the case any longer. I'm not sure what caused the 180 on his part - it was just out of the blue, but he seems genuine in his words about the whole thing.

I got him set up to get an initial assessment done at a local outpatient center to see what he needs in terms of rehabilitation. I've handled all of his insurance questions, FMLA questions, etc., so I'm doing whatever I can to help him out. He wants the full inpatient program just so he can step completely away from all of his stressors (job, ex-wife, etc.), so if he is ready to tell his work about his problem, I'm hoping he means it. We had a long talk and he's said his addiction became a part of him and he wasn't ready to let that piece of him go. Now that he's had this realization, he tells me he hates his current personality and wants to leave it in the past. We're cautiously hopeful.

I appreciate you guys helping reinforce the idea that you can't force them to see it from your perspective. He was completely blind to his actions. It's been incredibly hard to sit and watch him destroy his life, but I realized we can't help him until he's ready to help himself.

If there's anyone on the forum that is in the middle of a situation like this, I'm here to listen. You all helped me, so I want to be able to return the favor.
 
kevinoc0 said:
Figured I'd pop back in here with a quick update on my brother-in-law since a few of you were nice enough to help out.

About a week ago today, my wife received a phone call from her brother. He's openly admitting to his substance abuse issues and it finally coming to us for help. He mentioned that he was too proud and stubborn and thought he could fix all of this on his own. He clearly knows that's not the case any longer. I'm not sure what caused the 180 on his part - it was just out of the blue, but he seems genuine in his words about the whole thing.

I got him set up to get an initial assessment done at a local outpatient center to see what he needs in terms of rehabilitation. I've handled all of his insurance questions, FMLA questions, etc., so I'm doing whatever I can to help him out. He wants the full inpatient program just so he can step completely away from all of his stressors (job, ex-wife, etc.), so if he is ready to tell his work about his problem, I'm hoping he means it. We had a long talk and he's said his addiction became a part of him and he wasn't ready to let that piece of him go. Now that he's had this realization, he tells me he hates his current personality and wants to leave it in the past. We're cautiously hopeful.

I appreciate you guys helping reinforce the idea that you can't force them to see it from your perspective. He was completely blind to his actions. It's been incredibly hard to sit and watch him destroy his life, but I realized we can't help him until he's ready to help himself.

If there's anyone on the forum that is in the middle of a situation like this, I'm here to listen. You all helped me, so I want to be able to return the favor.
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Sometimes ya just plant a seed and they'll get around to thinking about it in one of their comedowns
 
I come from a pretty affluent suburb out of Columbus, only twelve years removed from graduating HS, and this past weekend, I attended my third funeral in two years due to opioid overdose.

I've buried two close friends (and this past funeral - a brother of a very close friend who was a star athlete in HS and his father was a middle school football coach - well established and good natured family)

I have one good friend who survived his addiction (and by all accounts should be dead) but the only way he is able to live his life is by abstaining from pretty much every substance except nicotine and caffeine. I never thought the opioid crisis would hit this close to home for me until it did and now two years later, you start to think who might be next vs. this could never happen to someone I know.
 
Kbiz said:
I come from a pretty affluent suburb out of Columbus, only twelve years removed from graduating HS, and this past weekend, I attended my third funeral in two years due to opioid overdose.

I've buried two close friends (and this past funeral - a brother of a very close friend who was a star athlete in HS and his father was a middle school football coach - well established and good natured family)

I have one good friend who survived his addiction (and by all accounts should be dead) but the only way he is able to live his life is by abstaining from pretty much every substance except nicotine and caffeine. I never thought the opioid crisis would hit this close to home for me until it did and now two years later, you start to think who might be next vs. this could never happen to someone I know.
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Same here man, I’ve had to go to a funeral for a friend from grade school. It’s in the double digits now for sure for how many people I went to high school that have passed. I only graduated in 2009, hasn’t even been 10 years yet
 
David. said:
10 months. Life sure is different
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I went back and read through your posts about what you faced. I was genuinely moved by your willingness to discuss such personal issues, your ability to be self-reflective, your candor about what you faced, and your perseverance to overcome those demons.
 
Yeesh

My company is doing a post hoc background check. They got bought out and they're running everyone through. My 6 year old case still hasn't been expunged, 9 months after my attorney initially started the process.

On week ten of the refile and is taking the courthouse 8-12 weeks, so idk what will show on this check.

I've written my company and given a heads up.

I like my job. Complete autonomy and pays decent . But this could be a blessing in disguise. I think I would end up with more free time as a cpa, benefits, and an extra 25k a year. Still terrified of working in an office though
 
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Found out yesterday a good friend from high school that I'd get high with all the time got drunk and drove home, got in an accident and died on 12/30.

Absolutely horrible but it does make it a little more bearable that it was his own fault. Always knew something would happen to him. Always thought he was going to kill himself. Love the guy. Really sad.
 
My case was dismissed! In California, this is synonymous with expungement.

Im g2g for any private sector job.

I hate making decisions. I'm making good money right now and am comfortable with the work. 60k or so. It's a big switch to have a boss and sit in an office. But I'd get benefits and a 401k and job stability.

Stuck.
 
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