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David. said:
So why do men go for different methods? How can that be biological? Kinda what I'm getting at
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Well it’s not purely biological. I’d say some combo of nature and nurture makes males more likely (but like most things - even though there is between-group difference for gender, there is also plenty of within group difference, too) to have higher capability for suicide (a continuous construct that includes increased tolerance for pain or death, reduced fear of pain or death, etc.). And one way that plays out is a tendency to choose more lethal means.
 
My dreams over the last two weeks or so have been awful, unprecedentedly bad.

In one dream I was on a boat with a bunch of people with my son on my back and I kept trying to get him off of my back and into the boat and there were some kind of horrible creatures attacking my feet in the water and trying to get to him. Nobody would help get him in the boat. I’m always having dreams of having to save him from drowning or that he’s sinking into the water off of a boat or being kidnapped as the result of me letting a stranger watch him for two seconds.

In another dream, I accidentally sold our car to a guy that I had (in real life) just sold a house to recently. I fuck things up at work a lot in my dreams.

Lot of them involve failure in general and mostly have to do with work or my wife or son.

Strange thing is that my life situation would seem to be on the surface better than it’s ever been, in that I’m earning a lot of money and am a good husband/father but I do feel very anxious overall just in that I have a lot to do all the time and am hard on myself when I fail at work (or in general). Lot of responsibilities all of the sudden in life.

These dreams are driving me crazy though. I’ve never had dreams this bad before.
 
The Oi said:
My dreams over the last two weeks or so have been awful, unprecedentedly bad.

In one dream I was on a boat with a bunch of people with my son on my back and I kept trying to get him off of my back and into the boat and there were some kind of horrible creatures attacking my feet in the water and trying to get to him. Nobody would help get him in the boat. I’m always having dreams of having to save him from drowning or that he’s sinking into the water off of a boat or being kidnapped as the result of me letting a stranger watch him for two seconds.

In another dream, I accidentally sold our car to a guy that I had (in real life) just sold a house to recently. I fuck things up at work a lot in my dreams.

Lot of them involve failure in general and mostly have to do with work or my wife or son.

Strange thing is that my life situation would seem to be on the surface better than it’s ever been, in that I’m earning a lot of money and am a good husband/father but I do feel very anxious overall just in that I have a lot to do all the time and am hard on myself when I fail at work (or in general). Lot of responsibilities all of the sudden in life.

These dreams are driving me crazy though. I’ve never had dreams this bad before.
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You should see a therapist. You seem to have a lot of generalized anxiety. It isn't abnormal and it doesn't need to be treated with medication probably.

I think you would benefit from talking about everything happening in your life. It is a massive transition into fatherhood that comes with many new stresses. You would feel better unpacking why you have such a fear of failure.
 
The Oi said:
My dreams over the last two weeks or so have been awful, unprecedentedly bad.

In one dream I was on a boat with a bunch of people with my son on my back and I kept trying to get him off of my back and into the boat and there were some kind of horrible creatures attacking my feet in the water and trying to get to him. Nobody would help get him in the boat. I’m always having dreams of having to save him from drowning or that he’s sinking into the water off of a boat or being kidnapped as the result of me letting a stranger watch him for two seconds.

In another dream, I accidentally sold our car to a guy that I had (in real life) just sold a house to recently. I fuck things up at work a lot in my dreams.

Lot of them involve failure in general and mostly have to do with work or my wife or son.

Strange thing is that my life situation would seem to be on the surface better than it’s ever been, in that I’m earning a lot of money and am a good husband/father but I do feel very anxious overall just in that I have a lot to do all the time and am hard on myself when I fail at work (or in general). Lot of responsibilities all of the sudden in life.

These dreams are driving me crazy though. I’ve never had dreams this bad before.
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Man up. Start drinking all the time and beating your wife. Release that anxiety in a productive fashion. Unless she can kick your ass. Then cheat on her with a smaller woman and beat her up.
 
I've been on anxiety meds for two months, Lexapro.

Recently closed on house, been moving; realized I haven't taken my pill in like three days.

I don't miss that mind state at alllllll. Miserable last few days and couldn't figure out why.
 
DJTJ said:
I've been on anxiety meds for two months, Lexapro.

Recently closed on house, been moving; realized I haven't taken my pill in like three days.

I don't miss that mind state at alllllll. Miserable last few days and couldn't figure out why.
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You forgot? Don't judge your midset without taking pills as if this is your "normal" mindset. You have developed dependancy issues and any person would feel shitty not taking pills after being on them for some time, whether they aare mentally ill or not.
 
OptimusPrime said:
Man up. Start drinking all the time and beating your wife. Release that anxiety in a productive fashion. Unless she can kick your ass. Then cheat on her with a smaller woman and beat her up.
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Proud to say my wife could probably put up a pretty good fight against a lot of men.

Maybe I should start beating up some local politicians and the priests who got busted for molesting kids.
 
Sir'Dom Pointer said:
You forgot? Don't judge your midset without taking pills as if this is your "normal" mindset. You have developed dependancy issues and any person would feel shitty not taking pills after being on them for some time, whether they aare mentally ill or not.
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I've just been so overwhelmingly bush that I just forgot.

I'm totally aware that my on med mindset isn't normal; it's just better.
 
The Oi said:
Proud to say my wife could probably put up a pretty good fight against a lot of men.
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Just because every single person in your family from your wife to your infant can beat you up doesn't mean they can put up a fight against anyone else
 
I had this dream where I had like a hair in my.mouth and I pulled it and it just got longer and longer until I gagged and a huge furball came out. Then I woke up and luckily hadn't puked everywhere
 
King Stannis said:
You should see a therapist. You seem to have a lot of generalized anxiety. It isn't abnormal and it doesn't need to be treated with medication probably.

I think you would benefit from talking about everything happening in your life. It is a massive transition into fatherhood that comes with many new stresses. You would feel better unpacking why you have such a fear of failure.
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Just curious...Doesn't everyone have a fear of failure?
 
The Oi said:
Just curious...Doesn't everyone have a fear of failure?
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Yes, but if it is guiding your dreams it may be a bit heightened for you right now.
 
So after my all to public melt down on this forum, I went and got some help. They got me on a bunch of meds. I don't feel like myself now. I feel empty is the best way I can describe it. They have me on fluoxetine, olanzapine, and lamotrigine.

Anyone have experience with these drugs?
 
cavman said:
So after my all to public melt down on this forum, I went and got some help. They got me on a bunch of meds. I don't feel like myself now. I feel empty is the best way I can describe it. They have me on fluoxetine, olanzapine, and lamotrigine.

Anyone have experience with these drugs?
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Wait, you got medicated because of these forums? Please, please, tell me there's more to this!

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Ya, I looked at those meds, you've got some heavy hitters in there. Do you care to share what you're diagnosed w/? Personally speaking, I've taken Prozac (fluoxetine). Can't say I really feel different. In the past I took Klonopin as well to no negative effect. Mostly dealing w/ hospital / bedbound depression and anxiety.
 
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