Interesting story here....
WASHINGTON (AP) — Raised voices could be heard through the thick door to the Oval Office as John Kelly — then secretary of Homeland Security — offered some tough talk to President Donald Trump.
Kelly, a whip-cracking retired general who was sworn in as White House chief of staff on Monday, had demanded to speak to the president alone after Trump complained loudly that the U.S. was admitting travelers from countries he viewed as high risk.
Kelly first tried to explain to Trump that the admissions were standard — some people had legitimate reasons to visit the country — but the president insisted that it was making him look bad, according to an administration official familiar with the exchange about a month ago.
Kelly then demanded that other advisers leave the room so he could speak to the president frankly. Trump refused at first, but agreed when Kelly insisted.
It was an early indication that Kelly, a decorated retired Marine general who served three tours in Iraq, is not afraid to stand up to his commander-in-chief....
https://apnews.com/290dfd4f9e364a29...uscle-his-first-day-on-the-job-at-White-House
There are a couple of interesting thing about this. The most obvious one is Kelly being willing to speak very directly to a pretty volatile President, while serving as his subordinate. I can say that Kelly actually pushed his own subordinates to speak frankly to him as well, and from what I heard, that never changed.
The more interesting thing about this is here is a guy who stood up to Trump on an issue with "raised voices" -- though having the presence of mind to close the door and have the talk in private -- yet Trump
promoted him. That doesn't seem characteristic of what many expect of Trump. That raises the question of why that pairing has worked at all to this point (including Kelly's six months at DHS), because being challenged is not something someone with NPD generally tolerates, much less rewards.
One thing is that Kelly is pretty conservative himself, and so likely shares Trump's views on a lot of substantive issues. The conversations are less likely to be "I disagree with what you're trying to do", but more "I don't think this is the best way to accomplish what you want to accomplish." The latter is much easier to accept than the former, and is more likely to be something that is sustainable. I'm sure he would be upfront about major policy disagreements as well, but there aren't as likely to be a huge number of those. Not on issue where Kelly really feels a key principle is at stake, anyway.
Probably a secondary thing is Kelly's own personality -- he's extremely unflashy, and it is never "about him". It's always about the mission. He's got an
UnNarcissistic Personality, which makes it unlikely that Trump will ever feel disrespected or condescended to even where there is disagreement. So I think there is a pretty good chance this pairing might actually work.
ETA: I'm not saying that I agree with the whole "NPD" thing, either. I'm simply saying that for those who do, there may be reasons why this works.