My mother has narcissistic personality disorder without a doubt.
Why is that your favorite? I find it kind of boring. Maybe because I'm really familiar with it.
I don't know about your mother but let's compare notes:
I
had a friend that I spent years trying to help. I didn't even realize what he truly was until a couple years ago.
On the surface and when you first meet him, he can be very charming and friendly. So much so that you want to believe him when he starts getting into how bad his medical conditions are. He can appear to care about other people's needs.
Despite my help in getting him a job (almost), preventing him from going to jail, finding him adequate healthcare, finding a place for him and his mom to stay for almost free of charge and basically running his life, he turned on me because I didn't praise him enough and because I was disloyal for having the temerity of trying to keep him from making terrible decisions.
All the while as I am basically running his life for him, he is bragging about how smart he is, how his brain works so much better than everyone else's, he'd straight up lie to people about all his non-existent business ventures (which we're my ideas anyway), bragging about all the smart people that praise him like David from Reno, or Dr. Ron PhD who went to Duke and by proxy that makes him smart too. He would name-drop so and so with a degree from Harvard or wherever to prove his points as if they lended him authority.
He would tell people at the store that he was a wildly successful businessman who was going to buy a plane. He'd demand that I hire not one,
but two, secretaries to handle all his correspondence and stuff because he is so successful and can't even open a single letter. Whenever I suggested he get a job he would throw tantrums about how he is too good to work, too smart and that everyone is insubordinate to him. Meanwhile his room was a fucking pig-stye overflowing with receipts and papers which
he didn't clean up for three years. He demanded a secretary to go through his papers and a maid to clean his room daily. He'd brag about how is the greatest ________ and that everyone was jealous of his "success" and sabotaged him. He'd treat waiters, clerks, just about everyone in the service industry like dogs because they were the help and stupid whereas he was so smart and successful.
Every conversation, after a sentence or two always devolved into how smart and successful he is and how he is going to buy a plane, or two.
In actuality he hasn't worked since 2009, is dead broke because he spent $100K he inherited in six months on pot, fancy watches and other "items commiserate with his rank in society." He has a total of two semesters of undergrad and claims he got straight-As. I doubt that as he is so high all the time he has no memory. Apart from that money he inherited in 2014, he has been broke and begging money, food and shelter off people since 2009. He also spent the $150K his mother inherited as well, racking up $2500 bill a month on pot alone.
He would scream at his mom for daring to see her psychologist alone without him because people were plotting against him, and had tantrums over how she wasn't telling her internal medicine doctor how smart and rich he was (he is broke) because the High Society of Olympia would talk about him behind his back. He would make outrageous claims as to what he did for a living (nothing, he sat on the couch all day and often slept in until 4:00) and depending on the day his Facebook would say that he was pre-law at the University of Washington, A Democratic Delegate for Bernie Sanders (he was a delegate at the precinct level), Real Estate Developer and now a Fund-Raiser for Parkinsons. Moreover, he does have some health issues, but he consistently lies about the severity of his issues, demands sympathy and money for pot because it is a "great" medication, often latches on to quack doctors and throws violent tantrums when real doctors disagree with him, telling them he is smarter than some "mere MD." He often exhibits sever symptoms of his maladies, such as the inability to walk due to very tight muscles, that disappear instantly after a single drag on a vape pen. He lies to people about his addictions and emotionally blackmails people to buy him shit because "he's dying." He says he is going to president of his AA Chapter because he is so smart and that they tell him is so brave and that he should do as he feels because he is sick and not worry about other people.
Oh and the best part is how sees dating. All men (he's a fat 40 year-old, bald gay man) who aren't interested in him are dogs and frivolous twinks. When I told him he might try cleaning himself up, getting some exercise and a job so that he could get on Grindr
he screamed about how unfair everyone is, how they should all be begging him to have sex and that they aren't worthy of him anyway. To my knowledge he as never been in a relationship. His ideas of a perfect mate are childish, unrealistic and never going to happen. He has the romantic maturity of a 13-year old.
He is a parasite and the most infuriating person I can think of on this planet. He has no friends now because he turned on all of them. I sincerely hope he drops dead soon. He makes the human race worse and is a blight on the cosmos.
Excuse the outburst but one of the defining characteristics of a B Cluster personality disorder sufferer is that most of the damage they do is to the people around them. I swear I have PTSD from being around him for six years. He fucking made my life miserable.
Thoughts,
@Hydroponic3385,
@jvlgato? Just how crazy is this guy. NPD for sure, any other disorders? I know you can't Dx a person without speaking to them so let's treat this is a hypothetical.