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How many cases have you seen where someone's career was destroyed from a single accusation with 0 corroboration or evidence? Im genuinely interested. It seems very unlikely to me.
Can't speak to entire "career", but in terms of that career with that employer....more than a dozen. They weren't all fired, but people generally don't want that hanging over them.
In my mind a pattern of behavior of harrassment, off color jokes at women's expense, and inappropriate touching can have consequences at work. Why should this behavior be protected?
It shouldn't be. But there is a massive gray area. About one in six marriages are between people who actually met at work. More than half of Americans have dated someone from work. Try to picture how signals were sent, things that were said, etc..
http://www.businessinsider.com/surprising-office-romance-statistics-2016-2
The whole "flirting" thing is how people send signals of romantic interest, and some are better at it than others. Some are good at receiving signals, and some aren't. Women do that to/about men as well. And they talk about men just as much, if not more, than the other way around.
Btw, I went to a military academy. Back in my day, a male and female could not be in a room with someone of the opposite sex unless the door was all the way open. That subsequently changed, and it isn't surprising that allegations of sexual misconduct - some legitimate and some not - skyrocketed.
ETA: what is scary is when we talk about the "gray area", the lines can move. What was considered fine 10-15 years ago may read differently when splattered about today without context, and what seems okay now may be thought of differently in 10-15 years.
Which is why men are better off keeping their distance.
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